Temperance

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The term temperance is defined as moderation or voluntary self-restraint.  It is typically described in terms of what a person voluntarily refrains from doing.  This includes restraint from revenge by practicing mercy and forgiveness, restraint from arrogance by practicing humility and modesty, restraint from excesses such as extravagant luxury or splurging, restraint from overindulgence in food and drink is the usual thoughts on the word.  Aristotle suggested this analogy: An intemperate person is like a city with bad laws; a person who lacks self-control is like a city that has good laws on the books but doesn’t enforce them.

Temperance can also include leading a balanced life, this includes emotions, or excess impulses.  Developing temperance can be developed by some simple tips.  Evaluating your emotions and assessing how you are feeling is always an excellent way to develop awareness of your emotions.  Evaluate your emotions before and after you forgive someone.  Review and understand when someone has offended you and then explore the offender’s perspective.  Lastly, make a list of individuals against whom you hold a grudge, then either meet them personally to discuss it or visualize how to let go of the feelings.

The best way to develop emotions is to be aware of how you are feeling and explore why this is triggering you.  Then plan out what your response should be the next time you feel offended.  Rehearse if possible and periodically affirm, “no matter how he/she offends me, I will respond as I have planned” Once you master this, you have developed temperance, the way I look at it is if I remain in emotional control and emotionally balanced, then I have kept my personal power.

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Ref: en.m.wikipedia.org

Ref: Positivepsychologypeople.com

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